My days are usually packed from start to finish. I schedule everything or else it’s not happening. I schedule hauling myself out of bed for exercise at 5:00 AM, hair appointments, work meetings, family time, everything. Believe it or not, finding time for intimacy is just as important. You may not think intimacy has to be scheduled.
Ladies, intimacy needs to be scheduled.
We have always scheduled sex by prioritizing the ritual of dating and going out. When you live with someone in a long-term relationship, these rituals start to diminish. You have to schedule intimacy in the way you prepare to exercise or have ‘we time’ with your girlfriends.
We are all in the passionate pursuit of the best of life, so why should we sacrifice anything, much less sexual pleasure?
In the busyness of our day-to-day schedules, we can lose sight of how important keeping intimacy alive in our life is. Sometimes even when we have down time, we are not present, our minds, racing, preoccupied with all that still needs to be done. Dr. Juliana Hauser, who specializes in sex, sexuality, and relationships, has some helpful tips for a better bedroom experience. She says, it’s good to get other things off your mind first, so you don’t carry them into the bedroom. She’s had people create dump journals of all the things that are in their minds. So that when you walk into the bedroom… it’s all left outside.
Scheduling intimacy is not just for those in committed relationships; it’s for all of you. Dr. Hauser adds, “If you don’t have a partner if you’re celibate, you should still take care of your pleasure. Right? And so soft closure is really okay. And we should think about that as being a regular part of enjoying ourselves.”
We need sexual satisfaction in our ageless life regardless of our relationship status.
If you need some help, some products can help you feel like your best sexual self. Dr. Geri DiPiano, the CEO of FemmePharma, reminds us that, for the most part, vaginal estrogen is covered by insurance. Many of us may have had a sex talk when we were teenagers, but we definitely don’t get a conversation when we’re 40, 50, or 60.
We get to create a discussion about who we are and what we need.
We are whole women with whole lives. We should and can communicate with each other about our sex lives. It’s time to get honest with our partners and ourselves. Urologist, Dr. Kelly Casperson believes that this is vital, “I think we should be able to say to each other things like, ‘this was horrible’, or ‘I’m pleased’ or ‘hold me, I’m crying over this experience’.”
Talking about sex doesn’t have to be complicated (or embarrassing). We need to absorb the wisdom and goodness in these conversations. After a lifetime of feeling a certain way about this area of our lives, it’s going to take work to change our ideas and habits about sex. But it’s worth it!
We have generations of women who don’t know the answers to some of their most fundamental questions: what do I need to be sexually fulfilled? What do I enjoy? What does my partner enjoy? How do my girlfriends feel about their sex lives?
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